When He Comes, He Comes for You
- Father Charbel Abernethy
- Apr 15
- 4 min read
On Fear, Regret, and the Mercy That Stands at the Door

“Surely I am coming soon.”
Amen. Come, Lord Jesus.
— Book of Revelation 22:20
There are many who ask now, quietly or aloud, When is Christ coming again.
It is not always curiosity. Often it is weariness speaking. A long life has been lived. The body no longer obeys as it once did. The world feels unfamiliar, even hostile. Sorrows have accumulated, not passed. And within the heart something begins to stir with greater intensity
Regret
Memories return, not as gentle recollections, but as accusations. Words spoken. Love withheld. Years spent chasing what could not give life. And alongside this, fear grows. Not only of death, but of standing before Christ with nothing to offer but a fragmented life
The fathers would not soften this. They would not distract us from it. But neither would they allow us to fall into despair
For they knew something we often forget
Christ does not wait at the end of time as a stranger
He comes to us now
The question of His coming is not first about the end of the world. It is about the unveiling of the heart
“Behold, I stand at the door and knock.”
— Book of Revelation 3:20
He does not shout from afar. He stands at the door of the very heart that is burdened with regret. The same heart that trembles at the thought of judgment is the place He seeks to enter
And what does He find there
Not righteousness. Not a life perfectly lived. But sorrow. Weakness. Confusion. Fear
And yet He does not turn away
We have created a false image of the Second Coming. We imagine it as a moment when all that is hidden will be exposed and we will be left defenseless before a severe Judge.
But the fathers insist on something deeper and far more demanding.
The One who comes is the same One who was crucified.
The same Christ who allowed Himself to be rejected, mocked, abandoned.
The same Christ who descended into death in order to find Adam hiding in darkness.
So when He comes, He comes as the One who already knows everything.
There is nothing in your past that will surprise Him.
Nothing in your heart that He has not already seen and endured.
The fear that grips so many in their later years is not simply fear of judgment. It is the pain of seeing clearly for the first time
The illusions fall away. The distractions no longer work. One begins to see the truth of one’s life without ornament
This is a great mercy, even if it feels unbearable
For this is the beginning of true repentance
Not the superficial regret that wishes things had gone differently, but the deep turning of the heart toward the One who alone can heal what has been broken
The desert fathers speak with fierce clarity here
They tell us that a single sigh from the depths can outweigh years of negligence
That one tear shed in truth is more powerful than a lifetime of self-justification
That the thief on the cross entered paradise in a single moment, not because his life was righteous, but because his heart turned completely
“Remember me, Lord, when you come into your kingdom.”
— Gospel of Luke 23:42
This is the prayer of those who fear they have nothing left to offer
And it is enough
The elderly who struggle day by day, who feel their strength failing, who are haunted by what has been, are closer to the Kingdom than they imagine
Not because suffering itself saves, but because the heart is being stripped bare
And in that bareness, truth can finally emerge
The enemy wants to turn this moment into despair
To whisper that it is too late
That the past cannot be undone
That judgment will be merciless
But Christ speaks otherwise
He does not say, I am coming to condemn you
He says, I am coming soon
Soon
Not to crush, but to gather
Not to expose in order to shame, but to reveal in order to heal
Even now, He draws near in ways that are hidden
In the quiet of a room
In the repetition of the Jesus Prayer
In the ache of the heart that no longer trusts itself
In the simple turning of the mind toward Him again and again
This is already His coming
The final coming will not be different in nature, only in fullness
What we fear is not His presence, but our resistance to it
And yet even this resistance can be offered to Him
The fathers teach us to bring everything
Not only our virtues, but our sins
Not only our strength, but our weakness
Not only our faith, but our fear
Especially our fear
For when a man or woman stands before Christ and says with simplicity
I have wasted my life, but I turn to You now
He does not reject them
He receives them as His own
So do not be afraid of His coming
Do not measure your life according to what you think it should have been
Stand where you are
In your weakness
In your regret
In your longing
And turn toward Him
Even if it is only with a whisper
Even if it is only with pain
Even if it is only with the words
Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me
He hears this
He receives this
And He comes
Not at the end only
But now
And when He comes in glory, it will be the same voice you have already begun to recognize
Not the voice of a stranger
But the voice of the One who has been seeking you all along.
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Thanks, Father.
God bless you.
Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me