The Burden Placed by God

The Prayer of the Spiritual Father as Descent into the Heart of Another

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

(Galatians 6:2)

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A man may desire to guide others.

He may desire to speak a word.

He may desire to help.

But unless something is placed in his heart by God,

he remains outside the mystery.

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Archimandrite Zacharias Zacharou does not speak of the spiritual father first as a teacher, or even as a counselor.

He speaks of him as one who prays.

And not lightly.

Not occasionally.

But with a heart that is taken hold of.

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This is the difference.

Many can speak.

Few can bear.

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The fathers are clear.

The one who would guide another must first descend.

Not into ideas.

Not into methods.

But into prayer.

And in that prayer, something begins to happen that cannot be imitated.

The other person is no longer outside him.

They are given to him.

Placed.

Entrusted.

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St. Sophrony says that the spiritual father must pray constantly for those entrusted to him.

Why?

Because without this prayer, everything becomes false.

Words become empty.

Guidance becomes human.

The Church itself becomes, as he says, “another of the half-blind powers of this world.”

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This is a terrifying word.

It means that without prayer born of the heart,

even what is holy becomes distorted.

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But when the spiritual father prays, truly prays, something else occurs.

He begins to feel what the other feels.

Not as imagination.

As participation.

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He prays for one in despair

and despair touches his own heart.

He prays for one in fear

and he tastes that fear.

He prays for one bound by passion

and he descends into that darkness.

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This is not psychology.

It is not empathy as the world understands it.

It is the Cross.

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The spiritual father becomes, in a hidden way, a bearer.

He stands before God

with another’s life within his own heart.

He does not analyze.

He does not solve.

He offers.

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This is why the word he speaks, when it comes, has weight.

Because it is not his.

It has been forged in prayer.

It has passed through suffering.

It has been received, not constructed.

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The desert fathers knew this.

They fled from giving counsel lightly.

They trembled when asked for a word.

Because to speak meant to bear.

And to bear meant to die.

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A word without prayer costs nothing.

A true word costs the heart.

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This is why so few can truly guide.

Not because they lack knowledge.

But because they are not willing to be wounded.

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The spiritual father does not choose what he will carry.

God places it.

Sometimes one name fills the whole night.

Sometimes a soul in crisis presses upon the heart with such force that there is no rest.

Sometimes many pass quietly through prayer.

But always it is God who determines.

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And the one who prays learns something terrible and beautiful.

He cannot save.

He cannot fix.

He cannot control.

He can only remain before God

with what has been given.

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This is why the prayer of the spiritual father is so often hidden.

There is no sign.

No recognition.

No outward measure.

Only a heart stretched beyond itself.

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And yet, in this hidden labor, something is created.

Archimandrite Zacharias Zacharou calls it infinite creation.

Because in that prayer, the other person is not merely helped.

They are brought into relationship with God.

And the one who prays is changed with them.

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This is the mystery.

The spiritual father is not above others.

He is beneath them.

Carrying.

Interceding.

Suffering.

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And if he does not pray this way

he should remain silent.

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Because better no word

than a word that has not passed through the Cross.

Reflection based upon the writing of

Archimandrite Zacharias Zacharou

Prayer as Infinite Creation, p. 45