The Violence of Holiness
- Father Charbel Abernethy
- Apr 6
- 4 min read
The Life That Cannot Be Lived Casually

“Be holy, for I am holy.”
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Free your minds, then, of encumbrances.
This is not gentle advice. It is a command that cuts to the bone.
The apostles do not speak to us as those offering spiritual enrichment. They speak as men who have seen the Risen Christ and know that everything that is not of Him must be cast off as a lie. The mind weighed down by distraction, fantasy, resentment, self-justification, and endless interior noise cannot receive God. It is not that such things are harmless. They are chains.
We have learned to live with chains. We decorate them. We call them personality, preference, wounds, temperament. But the apostle says something far more severe. Free your minds.
Not soothe them. Not entertain them. Not manage them.
Free them.
And this freedom comes not through indulgence but through violence. The violence of watchfulness. The violence of refusing every thought that does not lead to God. The violence of turning again and again toward Him when the heart would rather wander.
Control them.
We recoil at this word. It sounds harsh to modern ears. Yet the fathers would say that the uncontrolled mind is not freedom but slavery. A man who cannot govern his thoughts cannot love God. He cannot even see Him. His inner world is a marketplace where every voice shouts and none are silenced.
Control is not repression. It is purification.
It is the slow, painful work of bringing the mind into the heart and placing both before God without distraction or deceit.
And put your trust in nothing but the grace that will be given you.
Nothing.
Not your past. Not your identity. Not your achievements. Not even your religious efforts.
Nothing but grace.
This is where the joy begins to burn. Because when everything else is stripped away, what remains is not emptiness but a fierce and living hope. The Christian does not build his life on what he can secure or manage. He stands facing what is to be revealed. His life is stretched forward, waiting, trusting, longing.
This is not passivity. It is a radical reorientation of existence.
Do not behave in the way that you liked to before you learnt the truth.
The apostle does not flatter us. He assumes that what we “liked” was disordered. That what felt natural was often opposed to God. That our instincts, left unhealed, lead us away from life.
We resist this. We want continuity between the old man and the new.
But there is none.
The truth does not decorate your former life. It crucifies it.
And yet this crucifixion is not bleak. It is the doorway into a joy that cannot be manufactured. Because what dies is not life, but the distortion of life. What falls away is not the self, but the false self that could never be satisfied.
Make a habit of obedience.
Not an occasional gesture. Not a moment of generosity when it suits you.
A habit.
Something steady. Hidden. Repeated when no one sees. Chosen when it costs something. Held to when the heart feels nothing.
Obedience is where love becomes real.
It is where the will bends, not under compulsion, but in trust. It is where a man ceases to be divided within himself and begins to live from a single center. Not his own desires, but the will of God.
This is why obedience feels like death.
Because it is the death of self-will.
And yet it is also the birth of peace.
Be holy in all you do.
All.
There is no corner of life exempt from this call. No private space where we may remain untouched. No hidden indulgence that we excuse. No small compromise that we allow to remain.
Holiness is not a mood. It is not an intensity of feeling. It is a way of being that permeates everything.
How you speak.
How you think.
How you eat.
How you remain silent.
How you endure suffering.
How you carry love without seeking to possess.
Holiness is total.
And this is where many turn away. Because we have been taught a smaller Christianity. One that comforts but does not transform. One that reassures but does not demand.
But the apostle leaves no room for such illusions.
Be holy.
For I am holy.
This is the terror and the joy.
God does not call us to admire His holiness. He calls us to share in it.
And this is impossible.
Which is precisely why it is grace.
The life described here cannot be lived by effort alone. It is not achieved. It is received. But it is received only by those who consent to be changed completely.
This is the narrow path.
This is the burning path.
This is the path of those who no longer wish to live halfway between God and the world.
And here, at last, is the hidden joy.
To live without division.
To stand with a free mind.
To have a heart that no longer bargains with sin.
To trust in nothing but God.
This is not loss.
It is life.
Real life.
And it begins when we stop softening the call and allow it to wound us into truth.
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...refuse every thought that does not lead to God...turn again and again toward Him when the heart would rather wander....be holy in everything you do. Everything.