The Question Beneath Our Age
- Father Charbel Abernethy
- 6 hours ago
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Autonomy, the Impossible Gospel, and the Birth of the New Man

“Who then can be saved?”
Matthew 19:25
We live in an age that is intensely focused on autonomy, independence, personal freedom, self-determination, and self-fulfillment. These ideas are not merely cultural values. For many they have become the very center of identity. A person must define himself, protect himself, construct himself, and fulfill himself.
Slowly the heart becomes enclosed within its own project.
Yet communion with Christ is born in precisely the opposite movement.
The Kingdom is not entered through the strengthening of the self but through its surrender. The life of Christ begins where the project of self-creation begins to fail.
This is why the Gospel itself cries out the same question that rises in the heart of many today.
“Who then can be saved?”
The disciples asked this not because they were irreligious, but because they had suddenly realized that the Kingdom requires something impossible for the human will as it normally functions. It requires that the center of life shift away from the self.
And that is exactly what our culture trains us never to do.
Autonomy teaches us to guard the self.
Christ asks us to lose it.
Self-determination teaches us to construct our life.
Christ asks us to receive life.
Self-fulfillment teaches us to look inward.
Christ asks us to empty ourselves in love.
At first glance the two movements appear irreconcilable. It can seem as though modern man has been formed in a direction opposite to the Gospel.
And yet the Fathers would say something deeply hopeful here.
Even the modern obsession with autonomy eventually exhausts itself. The self cannot bear the weight of being its own foundation. When a man attempts to create himself he eventually discovers the terrible fatigue of the project. Beneath the language of freedom there is often a profound loneliness.
It is precisely here that another question begins to emerge, not as theology but as a cry of the heart.
“How can a man be born again?”
Nicodemus asked this question because he sensed the impossibility of the transformation that Christ was describing. He could see that the Kingdom required an entirely new mode of existence. It could not be produced by effort, morality, intelligence, or even religious discipline.
It had to be given.
This is why the Lord answers both questions in the same way.
“With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
The new birth is not the achievement of the autonomous self. It is the death of the illusion that we can save ourselves.
The Fathers repeatedly say that the beginning of the spiritual life is not strength but poverty.
When the project of self-creation begins to collapse something else becomes possible. The heart begins to open to grace. The man who once tried to possess himself begins instead to receive himself from God.
Then communion begins to appear, not as an idea but as a life.
For communion is not the fusion of strong independent selves. It is the life of Christ shared among those who have learned that they cannot live without Him.
This is why the saints speak so often about humility, obedience, and poverty of spirit. These are not moral decorations. They are the conditions that allow the human person to be reborn.
The modern world forms autonomous individuals.
Christ forms persons who live from another life.
And paradoxically it is only in that surrender that the true person finally appears.
What many sense today, this tension between the autonomous self and the life of communion, is not a problem that can simply be solved. It is one of the great spiritual battles of our age. The Church does not answer it primarily by argument but by witness.
Where a man begins to live in Christ the illusion of self-sufficiency slowly dissolves.
And in that place something quietly astonishing begins to emerge.
Not the self we tried to construct.
But the person God had always intended to bring into being.
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